I’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.

I’ve written this post a dozen different ways in my head, but nothing works. In those imaginary publications, I list the ways I’m over-committed, offer lengthy descriptions of my desk piled high with un-filed papers, walk through misty-eyed retrospectives of the past 5 1/2 years and 455(!) posts, wax prosaic on intense desires to start knitting again and stop taking pictures of my food. But none of these are reasons to stop blogging, not in and of themselves. Everyone is busy — you are busy, I am busy, we’re all busy — my desk has been messy for eternity past and I’ve knitted plenty of things over the years, while blogging (though admittedly not simultaneously).

The truth is, I don’t really know why I need to stop. I just know it’s time.

When I first started writing, there were about three people, all close friends, who read my blog. It will never cease to amaze me that over the course of five years, many more than that original trio have read it — people I’ve never met, people across oceans have even chosen to read it regularly. I think that fact alone has kept me blogging during the times it was a really hard thing to do. Simply typing the words thank you in no way communicates the level at which I appreciate those of you who’ve invested your time in reading what I have written here — I have truly loved the connections that blogging has given me to people all around, from my own neighborhood to across the country, from people I’ve seen and hugged to people I’ll never meet face to face. Blogging can be crazy that way, crazy good.

Once upon a time, I wrote when I felt like it. I posted a photo every so often, if I happened to have time to take a snapshot. I loved it — I did it because it poured out of me, a river of words that was impossible to stop and I was just thankful to have a place to let the current flow.

But the past (almost) year has been a struggle. I can no longer sanely keep up with it regularly, and it has come to feel more of a burden than a joyful outlet for creativity — which is unfair to all involved, as I and blog and reader all suffer. When asked by my (loving and concerned) husband on more than one occasion how long are you going to do this? my answer was always until I no longer enjoy it.

And I’m sad and a little bit relieved to say that day has finally come.

But the question for me remained: what does it look like, to stop blogging?

For me, it’ll probably be more of a break than a break up. I’m not deleting my blog — for the time being, this blog and all of its archives will still be here. And I will likely even post again — I would love to finish my series on Grocery Budgeting — but for the immediate future I will not post with any regularity. I will also be retreating a great deal from social media — that is one part of blogging that can be the biggest drain on an introvert like me. For those of you who read only occasionally, you will likely not notice any change — for those who faithfully read (hi Mom & Dad!), you can expect a much lower frequency, especially in coming months.

Some things won’t change. I’ll still (always) be cooking — frazzled, enamored, frustrated, eternally delighted with food.

Just quiet. And deeply thankful for those who have read.

34 thoughts on “I’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.

  1. Well, that is a bummer for your readers, but I’m happy if you’re happy. Selfishly, I hope it’s temporary. But, in the meantime, I still plan on hanging on with you. Ya know… canning, drinking your kombucha, stealing your delicious smoothie recipes. (which I believe actually have healing properties!!) xo

  2. If I didn’t already know you from in real life (one of the greatest perks to have ever come out of blogging), I’d be in a sad, sad state right now. To say that I adore your writing and look forward to your posts would be an understatement. And I am sad, but I’m also so very proud of you for being true to yourself and knowing what’s best. Bravo.

  3. Um…I felt a tiny panicky thinking that you might delete your blog. Of course I’ll miss reading it (as often). It also means I must beg advance notice for if/when you decide to do that as I frequently reference your site.

    After all, you wouldn’t want me wringing my hands in the kitchen any more than I already do. And I surely wouldn’t want you to have that on your conscious! šŸ˜‰ Thanks for all the helpful and insightful information, Katy.

  4. Sigh, my red headed, DQ loving friend, I will miss the presence of your words {even if it is, as I hope it is, an extended temporary}. And yet I think all bloggers can completely understand. Love your insight on all things food and life. And yet, I’d much rather you enjoy your life than just write about it. šŸ™‚ Happy Trails . . .

  5. Well, I definitely wouldn’t say that reader has suffered!! Your blog is a delight to read, always. I love it when it pops up on my Googlereader. But I hear what you’re saying and understand – especially about the larger social media part. Glad you’re making a good choice for you! Really glad the blog is staying up, though, because I need to be able to come back and find your black bean chili and your curried lentil recipes every time I lose them. So, see you on Facebook – sometimes? Please at least share some of the pieces you’ve written elsewhere that end up online. Happy cooking. šŸ™‚

  6. Katy, you are and will continue to be an inspiration to me in life and in your writing! While I am deeply saddened to see that you won’t be regularly posting, I know that all good things must come to an end šŸ™‚ I’m excited for you in this new phase of life, and, like Suzanne and Angie, am so thankful that this is not the end for me, as I get to enjoy your presence in the flesh in “real life”! Alex and I love you tons, and can’t wait to see the ways you explore what’s next šŸ™‚ XOXO

  7. Good for you! Wait – don’t take that the wrong way. Yes, I am sad to see you go, but, more importantly, I am so very happy when someone I like/respect takes charge and does what is right for THEM. You know, it’s really hard to give when you are not stoking those inner fires. Go you.

  8. I’ll miss coming to this space and reading your words every time you popped up in my Google Reader. Of all of the food blogs I’ve read over the years, yours sticks out in my mind as having offered more than a handful of recipes that I keep coming back to, along with your witty, down-to-earth narration of their context. I’ll especially treasure your grain-free recipes, and hope that we can indeed meet in person sometime soon, as long as your offer of a scoby baby is still good (I hope?).


  9. You’re an awesome writer and I will miss the feeling of delight from seeing a new post from you in my reader. If you ever feel the need to write something, you know my email address! šŸ˜‰ xo

  10. A little bit sad but you have no idea how much I understand. You’ll be back but in your own time and in your own way. As long as we stay in touch and strive to eat another meal together somehow, some way, then I will wipe the frown off my face ok? And save me one of those bottles of tomatoes will you? šŸ™‚

  11. I’m sorry to hear this and will miss your posts, but the thing about blogging is that there are NO rules. Stop until you feel like writing again, when you do, write again, then repeat. xoxo

  12. Hi Katy! I’ve been following your blog for about a year now and have really enjoyed the new posts and searching through the older ones. I’m sorry to hear you won’t be posting regularly, but like many of the other commenters, I’m very glad to know you won’t be taking down the site! I come back to many of your recipes regularly! Thanks for all of the info and insight and lots of luck with everything in your post-“Katy She Cooks” life!

  13. This is so sad. It has been a wonderful journey with you and all the super cool food you have introduced me to!
    I’ve enjoyed the ride!

  14. Even though I TOTALLY understand and am glad you are doing what’s best for you, I’ll also miss your posts and insight. You have single-handedly made me more conscious about what I’m consuming and feeding my family. Seriously, I’ve tried to be interested in nutrition before but no one has presented it as clearly and simply as you. (Or given me a delicious dairy-free chocolate cake recipe that changed my life.) I’ll be seeing around you hopefully!

  15. Selfishly – Oh No! I just found you and placed your blog on my bookmark bar of websites that I check every day. I am truly happy that you are making this decision for you! Thank you for all you have given over the years (and for keeping the archives so I can catch up!). Good Luck and Enjoy!

  16. Hi Katy, I just came to your blog today to FINALLY subscribe and start catching up. (Isn’t it terrible–I finally figured out to subscribe to blogs you want to follow. I know I’m behind the times!) And I read this post!! I’m disappointed, but happy for you. I’ll still get to go back and read with what I’ve missed. Hope we can catch up sometime, my old friend!

  17. I totally get it. I am sad that I won’t have those regular connections to an old friend, but I suppose we really shouldn’t rely on social media for that anyway. Thanks for keeping it up– I refer to your blog with the same frequency as a beloved and tattered cookbook. Well done, friend. Bask in the knitting.

  18. This should be fun for you and/or fulfilling…when that stops and it becomes a job…well, even then it should be fun and fulfilling! Maybe when you step back and decide and write only when you ‘feel’ like it, it will become a joy for you again…those of us who enjoy reading you hope so!

  19. i don’t know whether to wail and nash my teeth . . . or stand up and applaud . . . you will be tremendously missed Katy, for realz – not applying pressure here, just merely re-stating what others have said above. BUT i applaud you for understanding what you want/need and following what you feel in your heart. truth be told, MANY of us (translate me too) feel the same . . . but ‘breaking up is hard to do’ . . . can we still be friends???

  20. Well. -> I believe that was the response you gave me once it actually made me laugh out loud. As I clicked on a moment ago, I was quite literally thinking “I’m so glad that Katie doesn’t post every single day. It’s so refreshing for it to just be updated a couple of times every couple of weeks. And makes it exciting when she does. While all these other blogs are just overwhelming me by posting every day. Sometimes twice. Who are these people. They talk too much.” And then the page loads and I start reading and I think, “Well.” I get it. Enjoy your sabbatical. You’re bookmarked so I’ll still be checking in to see what’s cookin’.

  21. It has been a pleasure to read and pin what you have provided for those of us who love to share and love to cook.
    To say you will be missed is definately an understatement, BUT that said, you need to do what you need to do. I have always agreed that a job (of whatever kind) is only a joy if it doesn’t cause stress in one’s life, no matter how much you did
    once want to do it, because it fulfilled your desire to share your creativity with others.
    I hope that once you have time to commit to your other obligations full time, you might at some time desire to share an occasional recipe, or your thoughts on parenting or family life. If that happens, it would be very nice, if not, enjoy your
    hubby and children. We will be here if you ever choose to visit again. God Bless you and yours always . . .

  22. It took me a while to find this because I have been horribly behind on reading my reader, but I will miss reading your posts. Yours is one of the blogs that I always look forward to seeing a new post pop up in my reader, and if and when you decide to come back I will be here. I hope to run into you at the Indy Food Swap events or other foodie things around town. Good luck and enjoy your all of your “free” time šŸ™‚

  23. I completely understand that horrible feeling when blogging turns from a creative outlet to a chore. It’s terrible, a burden sometimes! But you will be very, very missed. Thank you for all of your insight– I have really enjoyed reading your stuff. Keep us posted if you start up something new!

  24. Well, your contribution for cyberspace has been a beautiful one my friend! Im sad for me that you’re stopping, but really happy for you that you are wise enough to. Seems like professional blogging can get easily become burdensome (Twitter, regular posts, answering comments, conferences….ahhhh!) Enjoy the space it frees and plan on just coming over once a month to give me all your new insights so that my void will be filled!

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